Determining Fit
Did you know that one key indicator of your therapy success is having a good rapport with your therapist? It is essential that you feel safe, comfortable, heard, and validated.
You will have vulnerable conversations with them and the more honest you can be with yourself, the better your therapist can help. Ultimately leading to better therapeutic outcomes.
About Our Therapist-Client Relationship
Some things to consider before working with me:
What are you looking for in a therapist?
Do you expect your therapist to fix your problems?
Do you want someone who encourages introspection? How much feedback do you want from your therapist?
Do you like challenges? What about solutions?
What does self-reflection mean to you?
Do you like/need structure or are you more go with the flow?
As Your Therapist
I will provide us with the structure necessary for productive conversations. By asking challenging reflection questions, I will encourage self-awareness and clarity. We will work as a team and I will work at your pace. I will be transparent and provide you with techniques, tools, and reflection questions that I think would help get you to your destination. The homework I assign will always be relevant to your personal growth, there is no busy work. My sessions fluctuate between structured and semi-structured. Although we don’t always have a clear path in mind, we usually have a general direction in which we are traveling. I am not a yes-man therapist and will hold you accountable to the goals we collaboratively set. I believe YOU are the expert of yourself and will not always have the answer. I will frequently check in with you and ask for feedback/accommodations, as it's important that you feel comfortable and safe.
Some things to consider about yourself when choosing a therapist:
How honest am I willing to be in this therapy process?
Do I want to be assigned homework? Am I ready to do the work outside of therapy?
Do I have the time to commit to self-reflection and self-awareness?
What does self-exploration mean to me? What do I want from my sexual and mental health journey?
What personal goals do I have and how do I want my therapist to help me achieve them?
How would I know if therapy is working for me? What feelings/changes would I notice?
As My Client
I ask for transparency. The more honest you are, the better I can treat you and do my best to cater my work to your needs. Every brain is different and I will try my best to understand your worldview. I ask that you be honest about your progress and your readiness for therapy. I also encourage openness and willingness to try new things, especially when the current ways are not serving you well. Therapy requires hard work, dedication, and an investment in yourself. I am ready to climb this mountain of exploration when you are and will hold space for you when that time has come.
Together
We will grow, thrive, and connect. We'll have stimulating conversations and awkward silences. We can accomplish the goals you've set for yourself. We will learn from each other as we navigate through life's hurdles. We will have plenty of questions and will definitely not have the answers to everything. The goal is that you will graduate therapy feeling equipped and confident in your ability to regulate your emotions, foster meaningful relationships, and have a fulfilling sex life!
Some things for us to consider in our work together:
How can I best support you? How can we nurture self-growth, autonomy, and connection in your personal life?
How can we keep our line of communication open and honest with each other in order to develop strong rapport?
What boundaries can we practice so that the lines of our therapeutic relationships do not blur into friendship and we continuously respect each other?
